Update on Teacher:
Last week, I wanted to make sure that he knew I was still interested so I sent him a text. I figured if he knew I was interested he would also show his interest. Welp I wrong. Our last texts after some small talk:
(410): Well let me know when you’re free so we can get together again :)
(410): Sounds good
As you can probably imagine, I have yet to hear from him. It’s been a week. Before, we were constantly texting, but now after our one night stand…nothing. Homeboy was that desperate to get laid? You have to take a girl on 4 dates in order to do so? Isn’t that what a bar is for? From my experience if you get drunk enough on a random Friday night you can for sure take someone home. To me, this whole thing makes no sense.
I’m also sick of making all of the effort with guys. Is it too much to ask for a 50-50 relationship? Why should I be texting him all of the time? Setting up dates? Initiating conversation? If he is interested HE will make some effort. Right?
As usual, I am left confused by yet another set of mixed signals. I need Patti Stanger in my life.
Kevin: Sorry I took so long I was doing 900 push ups!
OK so here is my latest Tinder experience.
Date #1: I met Teacher for drinks a few weeks ago and we really hit it off. Both of us in the education field sparked a lot of conversation. We both ordered the same beer and the date ended up lasting for almost 5 hours. He paid and we went our separate ways. I was disappointed he didn’t try to kiss me, but was more excited about him wanting to see me again.
Date #2: Teacher and I met for sushi on the following Monday, and I was beside myself nervous because I had gotten a tad drunk on our first date (story of my life). We had some beers and ate, which was a lot of fun; heavy conversation and not the slightest bit of awkwardness. After he paid, he suggested getting another drink at the bar nearby. We did, and ended up going home around 10:30. When he walked me to my car, he kissed me, which would have been a deal breaker if he didn’t. We went our separate ways.
Date #3: I was invited to watch a movie over at his house. I was a bit uncomfortable with this type of “date” because we were not going to be out in public. Were his roommates going to be home? Were we going to watch a movie in his bedroom? Would I have to sit on his bed awkwardly? I told him I was interested, but really I was considering canceling. Plus, I had to drive 30 minutes to get to his house. Friday finally came and I decided to go, what did I have to lose? I knew I wasn’t going to hook up with him, so he was either going to be okay with that or not. I get to his house, I look around- complete bro house. I felt like I had gone back to college and stepped into a fraternity house. Red flag? We drink some beers with his other teacher roommates and watch Jimmy Fallon bloopers. I was comfortable and his roommates were nice. He then makes the awkward move of suggesting we go upstairs to watch a movie. We awkwardly lay on his bed while watching Can’t Hardly Wait (his choice, not mine) on his laptop. We spent the entire movie talking, laughing and making out. He mentioned that this was date number 3 (which obviously made me happy). He was respectful that I wasn’t going to hook up with him, so I was pleased with that. I ended up driving home around 1AM, happy that I had went.
Date #4: We had made plans to get drinks on Saturday but did not chose a place. I was originally going to see him, but decided that he should make the effort and come visit me. Fair is fair, right? My dad was gone for the night and I figured we could go out, and if he needed to, he could stay here. He came up around 9:30 with a bottle of white wine in hand- hello, winner! We had a few drinks at my house and went to the bar for a few more. After a lot of vodka tonics and a shot of fireball, we came back and well, you can guess what happened. All in all, it was a fun night, which I do not regret in the least. I mean hey, 4 dates with a guy off of Tinder is pretty rare, right?
And you can guess it, things have been awkward since. Yes, it has only been three days, but the texts have been minimal and now I’m jumping to conclusions. But what am I supposed to think? Getting screwed over seems to be my thing, so it is not my fault I automatically think guys are going to hurt my feelings. He’s busy and I’m busy. We both have lives, but a little communication and feeling like you’re being thought about is all I want right now. Now all that is going through my head is, was he just interested in getting laid? What was the point of the four dates, and why did he pay? Why spend so much time with someone and then vanish like it never happened? I swear I need a manual for men, they are impossible to figure out. I thought Teachers were supposed to be nice.
I’ll keep you updated. I guess for now, its onto the next.